Nurturing Habits


We often speak of the importance of being grateful, though not too many of us can say that this is consistent in our day-to-day lives. When the unexpected appears, at times we forget to say thank you for the lessons. Instead, we can become angry, upset, and may shut-down all together. However, what we fail to realize is that there is always someone who could very well benefit from a positive spin.

In a recent conversation I had with a dear friend who is currently going through a few trials, she shared with me about the importance of her saying “Thank You” even if someone literally steps on her toes.  I listened and marveled by our congruent conversation of openness and deeper understanding. This led me to think about what it means to be in full gratitude in every moment, which can be boosted through the implementation of Nurturing Habits, a program we consistently use at ICL.

Here at ICL, Nurturing Habits is a name given to the way we use words to genuinely connect with people to build stronger relationships. Simply put, the words offer a deep connection to who we are as spiritual beings despite some of our human experiences.

All spiritual texts profess the importance of the Golden Rule. To touch on a few, in Buddhism, it is said “Treat not others in ways that you yourself may find hurtful.” In Christianity, Jesus said “In everything, do unto others as you would have them do to you.”  And, in Hinduism it is said “This is the sum of duty; do not do to others what would cause pain if done unto you.”

Nurturing Habits is a form of abiding speech. When in use, the Golden Rule can  become a simple act of everyday grace. So try saying these words more often:

  • Thank You
  • I Love You
  • What Can I Do?
  • I’m Here to Listen
  • How Can I Help?
  • I’m Here For You
  • I’m Sorry
  • I See You
  • You are Important

Faithful speech allows us to become wiser in understanding the needs of those in our spiritual communities and in our everyday living systems, and to be grateful for their presence in our lives.  It offers trust and support when needed, and helps to build the emotional well-being of others. Try practicing Nurturing Habits in your own environments, and share your findings with us.

May you have a fruitful August!


Rev. O


Source: Golden Rule (Buddhism): Udana Varga 5.18

Golden Rule (Christianity): Matthew 7:12

Golden Rule (Hinduism): Mahabharata 5:1517